This is my personal blog. It’s a collection of thoughts and ideas on the relationship between personal identity (who you really are) and personal freedom (what or who constrains you). It’s an area that I’ve wrestled with in my own life. Who am I supposed to be? Who tells me who I am? There is direct connection between how we perceive ourselves and the degree of freedom we experience as a result of that perception. We spend so much time trying to impress people as a way to gain their acceptance and approval that we lose track of our identity in the process. There is almost a desperation in the air of wanting to be known. Of wanting to be approved of by how much we have or what it is we do. So we strive and we struggle. We wear ourselves out. It’s as if we are starting without an identity and must create one as we go, hoping and praying that others will like who we become. But we have it backwards. Seeing this for what it is is critical. There is a truth centuries old and it is this: what we believe to be true (whether true or not) about who we are really matters, because our actions and behaviors follow in lock step with those beliefs. Work backwards from any action you take and you’ll find a belief that triggered it, good or bad. Improper beliefs lead to a life being controlled by them.
Well… how would your life change if you knew for certain who you truly are, what you are called to do, and where you are called to be? What if you removed the desire to become somebody because you knew deep in your heart you already are somebody? What if you knew you were loved. Like really loved. Not based on your behavior, but based on your position as a child of a King. What if God was waiting for you to be the real you… the one He created you to be, so He could call you into your next adventure. What if He is waiting to spend time with you, listening for your voice so He can respond to your real needs in His perfect love.
You are born with a song within you, created by God, restored in you by Jesus, and designed to be sung out by you in partnership with the work of the Holy Spirit in your life. Your song cries out to be heard; by God and by those around you. My book Love Sung is a 31 day devotional that invites you to learn how to sing your song again.
So my goal with my writing here is to be a beacon of light and hope to those of you who’ve tried the religious path, the ladder of success path, the professional stardom path, only to find it lacking. You may be a struggling entrepreneur, busy housewife, CEO, student, mom, dad… For whatever reason, you can’t quite get past the dull ache of wanting more from life, but finding no success in finding it. Years in a church with nothing to show for it except a feeling of defeat. For a Christian, that is the saddest thing of all, knowing that Jesus came to give us Life and we settle for less.
If you are willing to walk with me through some challenging thoughts and ideas, ones that I’ve wrestled with myself, I can assure you that your understanding of who you are and why you are made just the way you are will radically change. So much so that I believe you’ll begin to experience a different kind of Freedom. One that perhaps you didn’t know you were even missing, but will soon realize you can’t live without. I’ve been there.
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I was born in Maine. I spent all my younger years there. After a failed first attempt at college, I spent six years in the Navy, which culminated in several deployments aboard the USS Drum SSN-677 Fast Attack Submarine. Technology called. I answered. It’s where I’ve been ever since. I’ve owned and operated several small technology companies, all revolving around internet application development. Some were successful. Some were not. I’m currently CIO at a payment processing tech company in Murfreesboro, TN, where I know call home.
In 2008 I helped co-found and was a founding board member of A Solider’s Child Foundation (www.asoldierschild.org). I continued on the board for 4 years before stepping down to pursue other interests. The organization has grown leaps and bounds in just a few short years since it’s inception.
I have an incredibly gorgeous wife, Mary. We’ve been married for over 20 years. To say it’s been a journey is an understatement, but it’s a journey I would do again. We have two daughters by birth and one son that we adopted in 2014. We attend Victory Christian Center in Murfreesboro, TN where Mary and I lead the youth group and are active on the worship team.
When I’m not writing or speaking, I’m very likely playing my bass or sitting at the piano writing songs. Music has been a big part of my life since elementary school where I first learned to play trumpet. I picked up an electric bass from a Sears catalog in middle school, taught myself to play, and never looked back. I also play guitar and love to sing and write. Music has taken me overseas on mission trips to Russia (4 times), Ukraine, Scotland, and Dominican Republic. I am a member of the Nashville Praise Symphony and the Metro Big Band. I love to play jazz of all sorts. And some blues.
Finally, and most importantly, I’m a Christ-follower. It would be impossible for me to discuss identity and freedom without also sharing where they ultimately come from.
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